The Girl in the Self Imposed Box (elisabat) wrote in boston_buddies,
The Girl in the Self Imposed Box
elisabat
boston_buddies

Quiet!

I have a very large problem regarding Fizzgig. In my last post here, Fizzgig's calendar entries, I mentioned that I recieved some very bad news about my mother. She has recently been diagnosed with aggressive cancer which has spread to her brain. In approximately 1 month, I am going to be moving cross country to take care of her. She initially told me that I cannot take the animals. This is not like her, she loves animals. And specifically, she loves any animals that I have. But she is sick and terrified. She feels that she cannot handle the stress of having the animals around. I compromised, and will be living in the basement with my 4 cats and Fizzy. If it does not work out, I will find an apartment nearby. I'd rather not do that because I want to be there for my mother.

Here's the big problem. She requests that she not hear them. Presently at home, Fizzy is silent unless he has a nightmare. I currently live in a studio apartment and there really is'nt any room for him to feel neglected or to lose his toys. But it's different at work where there is a ton of room to run around and lose his toys. He is constantly whining and if I choose to ignore whatever is currently killing him, like the loss of a toy or him feeling neglected, he starts screaming. It's ear piercing and I usually give in. I sometimes yell at him to be quiet, which has no effect, so I just give into whatever he wants.

I know I should'nt yell at him. I know I should'nt give in. Anyway, just in case anyone can offer any advice on how to keep him quiet, I'd really appreciate it. My concern is that the basement is very large, and I'm expecting to have to spend a lot of time upstairs, with my mother.

Also, I plan on x-posting this concern elsewhere. If anyone has any suggestion of a good community to ask about this in, please let me know.
Subscribe

  • My babies

    I haven't posted in forever... I'm sorry for that. I think I'll be around more often, and I hope all of you will be too. My babies:…

  • rest in peace

    In case anyone still checks this community, I thought I'd post this. My Lainie died yesterday. She had turned 11 years old not long ago. I took her…

  • Hi all!

  • Post a new comment

    Error

    default userpic

    Your IP address will be recorded 

    When you submit the form an invisible reCAPTCHA check will be performed.
    You must follow the Privacy Policy and Google Terms of use.
  • 14 comments

  • My babies

    I haven't posted in forever... I'm sorry for that. I think I'll be around more often, and I hope all of you will be too. My babies:…

  • rest in peace

    In case anyone still checks this community, I thought I'd post this. My Lainie died yesterday. She had turned 11 years old not long ago. I took her…

  • Hi all!